First impressions
count. If people do not like
what they see upon first meeting you,
they're probably gone forever! In chess, you are checkmated in one move. In faery tales, you are slayed
by the dragon even before you have a chance to draw your sword. There is no easy
chance to change their thought about you. Even if you succeed, still it takes them
some extra time to get over their first impression about you. That is why the
first impression is important.
The fact says
that when you first meet a person, he makes a judgment about you in 4 seconds, some say 7 seconds, and his judgment is then finalized basically within 30 seconds of that initial contact. It will be crucial when you are in
a job interview or any moments that require the other person to decide whether
he is willing to hire or not to hire you, to see you again or no. In
this short time, the other person forms an opinion about you based on your
appearance, your body language, your character, your manner,
and how you are dressed. Here
we are not talking about the expensive suits we are wearing, but how well we
are accepted by the other person in the subconscious level. First impression is
first impression, and the good first impression does matter.
Perhaps the
easiest way to start is by putting ourselves in the other person’s shoes. What
would you like to see in someone upon your first meeting? Is he/she someone who
smiles warmly, who gives you a proper handshake, who is wearing proper clothing
(again, it does not have to be expensive), or what? In any case, you will not
expect to meet someone who wears flipflops in a job interview.
Below are some
tips you may find useful in creating a good first impression in 7 seconds:
1.
Smile. Facial expression
is very important to create a good impression. Avoid a false, cheesy grimace as the other person will know it is
fake. Have this in your mind: “I’m
a lovely, fun person who would love to talk with you about our future". This positive thought will be reflected
on your face and make it shine.
2. Give a proper handshake. Socially, the handshake is commonly used
to greet one another in the spirit of friendship
and sincerity. Whether you are in a job interview or connecting with an old friend, the handshake is an influential part of society that will solidify
our relationship and harmony with others. Read more about Why A Handshake Is Important.
3. Introduce yourself. When you shake somebody’s hands, just say, “Hi, I’m Ivy." He will then introduce himself
and you can reply, “It’s nice
to meet you” or
something similar. It
breaks the tension and creates a
conversation topic. As every one need to be productive in those 7 seconds, do not waste time on
random topics. Stay focus.
4. Speak clearly. Make sure the other person understand
what you are saying. Keep your words
relevant and appropriate as
you want to give them as much, good information as possible. Do not speak too
loudly and try a deeper voice–people
will tend to take you more
seriously if you speak with a
deeper voice.
5. Keep the eye contact. Although
the eye contact rules may vary in some cultures, it generally helps create a good
first impression. Do not stare—as it seems creepy and manipulative—but hold the other person’s gaze for at least 3 seconds at a time.
6. Look smart. Appearance is as important as body
language and your answers, so you need your appearance to be fitting for
the occasion. Remove any accessories
that could hinder their first impression of you.
So smile, shake hands, speak clearly and look smart, and you will be fine on your way
to create the best first impression. And it is important. Good luck!
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Via businessinsider, linkedin
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